The Universal Rules of Dating
If you want to be a good date, don’t do all the talking, mostly just listen. Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours was said by Benjamin Disraeli, a British prime minister, who was renowned for his seductiveness. A common mistake when dating is being too concerned with ourselves and our ego to actually stop trying to seek approval and to start to listen and give approval to others.
We should ask ourselves the question why we go for dating or that why am I dating, after fully establishing the basis of the same. In my opinion, it is because we feel we need a person to share our lives with and to love.
Keeping this in mind let’s get to the next essential part of dating: getting to know someone well enough. It’s difficult to know someone completely without inquiring of them. When on a date, you must be an investigator; you can’t love someone if you don’t know them and you may not want to be with the respective person once you get to know them.
One line we always take for granted: Just be yourself. All of us have heard about the same. Being yourself may be misinterpreted. You must have a strict attittude about your rules and values in life that is what it really meant. In other words, speak and carry out any action that you deem to be correct.
Honesty shows you are being yourself. Now, one may think he is honest, but he isn’t even honest with himself. You are honest once you stop being proud and start saying what you actually think. Go ahead and give it a try. Of course, you should not feel obligated to answer every question, and you can choose to say only what you want by stating that you are uncomfortable answering any particular question that you don’t want to answer. This is what being honest really means. If you use it properly, it will help calm you before meeting someone. Of course, you must keep in mind, being honest does not mean being rude.
What is said above is easily said, but not everyone may have the courage. Well, the only thing that can help you escape fear prison is yourself. Thomas Edison developed at least 10,000 incorrect ways to construct a light bulb. Then learned from them after he tried and tried and made mistakes. Put your fears aside and try talking honestly with your date. After you are honest with your date, you will see that they open up their hearts too.
Here’s another topic to discuss: harmony. Harmony is very important on a date. First, physical harmony. When people dress to impress, they dress harmoniously. Notice how important this is. Your mood usually dictates your body language and people seem to know when other people are angry or afraid because the second one is mental; you must be in a good state when dating. An individual’s attitude can be pretty infectious too. Like this- if someone is grieving because their pet has just died then a friend arrives with the news that they had won the lottery, the grief will turn to jubilation, which means the strongest emotion wins out.
Another thing that needs to be mentioned is: believe in yourself. You must not date with the person who didn’t like you. If you don’t like how the other person then leave, they may change their attitude. All said and done, you also have to be fair with yourself.
And last, but not least Relax!
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